For nearly three years my girls have been all but inseparable. Soon, however, Miss Kate will be going off to school. The girls will be doing different things, and Nate will too, but he's not old enough to be jealous of what the others are doing, except when he's pitifully watching the girls play in the grass, just wanting to get out there...and chew on it.
The girls are neither one happy. Gabby wants to go to school with Kate. Kate, who has been somewhat resistant to the idea of school anyway gets really upset every time she thinks about Gabby getting to stay home and do things without her.
We've been dealing some with the fact that fair doesn't always mean identical with them already. After all, they are different people, of different ages, with different interests, so not everything is the same for them. Sometimes they get different snacks or different toys. They still want equal...
My parents did such a good job with this. My sister and I opted to do some very different things growing up, but for the most part they made every effort to be fair in our activities. Justin has no experience with this as an only, so this rivalry is all new to him.
So here goes nothing! We get to try to balance what the children get to do. We know we're going to have to make it a point to do special things, with Kate especially with each of us, and try to find things for Gabby to do during the week. It isn't going to be equal, but we'll do our best to make sure it's as fair as we can make it. Pretty soon Little Man will by vying for his piece of the pie too, but for now I'm glad that he's happy to watch and bang on the window.
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