Kate was asking hard questions. Questions about why Santa didn't give gifts to those who get Shoe Boxes and goats. Why some children get so little and others so much. So I took my curly headed oldest out on a date.
We bought our advent candles and then settled into a coffee shop, rather than the McDonald's she had her eye on, in hopes not to ruin any small children's Christmas dreams. We talked about St. Nicholas. She excitedly told me that she knew all about him and his coins down the chimney.
Then I asked her what happened when people got old. First she answered, "They look different?" (ala Santa). Then I asked what eventually happened. A question formed on her face, "They die?"
Ah, yes. St. Nicholas died a long, long time ago. I explained that we use Santa to teach children about St. Nicholas and the giving of gifts. She asked lots of questions and found out that all kinds of adults are in on the whole thing.
I was so glad I got to tell her, not some mean kid teasing her. I'm trying to get her on board with keeping the littles in the dark until I can take them out for a hot cocoa and a cheese danish some day, when they are asking those hard questions.
I told her that I told my own little sister. She asked if I knew better. When I told her I did know, she was shocked. Her Mama wasn't perfect as a little girl. I told her I also upset Aunt Holly greatly, and I hoped she would do better than I did. We'll see!
An Unusual Field Trip
7 months ago