The girls are neither one happy. Gabby wants to go to school with Kate. Kate, who has been somewhat resistant to the idea of school anyway gets really upset every time she thinks about Gabby getting to stay home and do things without her.
We've been dealing some with the fact that fair doesn't always mean identical with them already. After all, they are different people, of different ages, with different interests, so not everything is the same for them. Sometimes they get different snacks or different toys. They still want equal...
My parents did such a good job with this. My sister and I opted to do some very different things growing up, but for the most part they made every effort to be fair in our activities. Justin has no experience with this as an only, so this rivalry is all new to him.
So here goes nothing! We get to try to balance what the children get to do. We know we're going to have to make it a point to do special things, with Kate especially with each of us, and try to find things for Gabby to do during the week. It isn't going to be equal, but we'll do our best to make sure it's as fair as we can make it. Pretty soon Little Man will by vying for his piece of the pie too, but for now I'm glad that he's happy to watch and bang on the window.
It is difficult to be "equal" when you have 2 daughters so close together. Even when you try hard, you feel as if you've failed when you have upset and disappointed children. All you can do is try your best and it'll all work out--eventually. But you'll still have times when one child thinks that you love their sibling "best" even when you know that isn't true - and they'll know that too ---eventually.
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